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This article discusses the difficulty mothers face while trying to attend college, and whether married or single it is QUITE a challenge. I went back to college when my little girl was 5 weeks old, and although it was difficult I wouldn’t have it any other way. Many people criticize mothers in school saying they should be spending time with their kids rather than going to college. But personally, I think that my daughter will be so proud to know that I finished college while taking care of her and see that while I am away from her going to school it is because she is my first priority! The article talked about an awesome plan for helping single mothers in college which provides childcare to single mothers, i LOVED that, details below:
“Wilson College’s Women with Children program, which started in 1996, helps single mothers attain a degree. After the moms go through the admission process and pay room and board, Wilson offers free child care all day, as needed.
Women in the program must be enrolled for 12 credits and are encouraged to take summer courses to graduate in four years.”
“The support group will try to inform women of the risks associated with any form of medical intervention during birth such as epidural, induction or C-section delivery.
“We are not anti-hospital or anti-medical,” Epsteen said. “We want women to be educated about their choices in birth.”
Jones-Smith delivered her daughter, Eden Smith, about four months ago.
“I figured if I did everything right and did all my research I would not end up with (a C-section),” the 29-year-old said.
But she did. She’s co-leading the local ICAN group to help educate but also to help heal, she said. “It was partially for my own healing,” said Jones-Smith, who lives in Lafayette. “I felt like this would be a way of helping myself heal and getting the message out there.””
Similar to the Ricki Lake film we watched in class, this is a support group with aims to inform mothers about their options in the delivery room and to help them from being “scared into” surgery. Personally, I never noticed the issue in this situation until after we watched the film in class. I have noticed that many people I know have had a c-section because something “may” have been damaging to the baby, but I bet that most of them could have given birth naturally just fine. I do like this group because I do think that women should be informed from all sides before giving birth, because like the film said: A woman will NEVER forget until the day that she dies the experience she had when giving birth. And that is so true, it is one of the most (probably THE most) powerful experience in your life if you have children. However, I personally have not had this kind of experience with OB/GYNs I felt that they were very respectful of my choices and can not imagine them pressuring me into a medical intervention I was not comfortable with. I think that any doctors who are doing this to mothers should probably be re-evaluated because that just doesn’t seem right to me.
I can remember in the second grade I was on the daycare bus and one of the fourth graders called me a slut. I remember going home that night, and asking my mom “Mommy, what is a slut?” She looked into my big blue 7-year-old eyes and said “Where in the world did you hear that word?” I told her how the girls at daycare always call people that and she told me “That just means its a mean girl who wears a lot of makeup.” I remember in 6th grade when I was part of the “mean girl” scene and thinking, wait a minute, we all wear makeup and we are mean girls, we must be sluts. In high school the word is thrown around thousands of times a day and it still makes me cringe. I have never become numb to this word, it is a terrible thing to say. This article discusses the word slut and the SlutWalk protests.
“The SlutWalk protests were born out of anger at the words of one Toronto policeman, who earlier this year told a group of students that if women want to avoid being “victimized,” they should avoid “dressing like sluts.” Cut to a few months later, and protests against this kind of reasoning – that it’s women’s responsibility to avoid rape, rather than men’s responsibility not to commit rape – are being held all over the world. SlutWalks were recently held in Los Angeles, Chicago, Sydney, and Cardiff, Wales. Soon, Edinburgh, New York, Johannesburg and Bishkek, Kyrgyzstan will follow suit.”
This policemans words made me cringe, regardless of what a woman is wearing she is NEVER “asking” to be raped or victimized. If I walked around butt naked 24/7 that does not mean I deserve to be raped. And it’s funny how the way a man dresses is almost NEVER correlated with his “sluttiness.” Men are expected to go shirtless a majority of the time, and if they walked outside in their boxers nobody would say a peep, but if a girl is wearing a dress that shows the body she’s proud of, she is “asking” to be raped??!?!?! Are we kidding people?!!!!
(The poster says: SEX is something people do TOGETHER, NOT something you do TO someone else!)
I can not help but constantly wonder why a girls “sluttiness” is one of the main things we are concerned about and judgemental about, but a mans sluttiness is his biggest prize, and he is praised and high-fived for it. Men are allowed to have sex for fun, because SEX IS FUN. But women who have sex for fun are sluts and deserve to be raped?! I am appaled.
Pregnant women ”eating for two” can put their babies at risk from eating disorders and a low IQ, a new research has warned.
They may also put them at risk of developing behavioural problems, eating disorders and mental health conditions such as schizophrenia.
This article reveals the idea that gaining too much weight during pregnancy can cause harmful long-term effects on your baby. Babies born to obese mothers are more likely to have a low IQ and are more likely to develop eating disorders later in life. I think this is very interesting information, but we need to make clear that it IS necessary to gain weight during pregnancy and that you are expected to put on a few pounds. Because on the contrary, NOT gaining enough weight can also be harmful to your baby. It is so intriguing to me that there are so many things a mother can do during pregnancy that will affect her child, and there are probably millions of factors that we have not even discovered!
“Devaluing men has resulted in throngs of adult males who are anything but men, having been raised by women who placed no value on men—including the ones they were raising. This only adds to the number of fathers who have no idea how to stand up and be men or fathers.
Some women have become so comfortable devaluing men that many now celebrate Father’s Day by claiming that they are holding both the male and female role in parenting. The subtext is screaming that men are so unnecessary that women can fill in their role and nothing will be missing.
The problem is that a great deal will still be missing. For example, a woman cannot provide a child with male modeling, something crucial to the development of a child’s social coping skills.
Without male modeling, boys will be unable to interact with men and so will struggle to fully develop as men. Girls will be unable to understand interactions with men and so will struggle in relationships, dating and subsequent motherhood. Both will grow up believing that men are unnecessary.”
Close to 40% of Americans grow up without a father. According to this article posted about devaluing men, as a society, we are constantly flaking away the value of men, acting as though they are completely useless. Single mothers are always trying to prove that they don’t need a man and that them and their children will be fine without a man, because she can do his job. More and more children are growing up without fathers, and they are typcially being raised by these “don’t need a man, they are no good anyway” mothers. Therefore, the children are trained to think that men are useless and also see no value in them. Could this be why so many men are walking out on their “baby mamas” these days? Maybe these little boys were trained to think that men do no good anyway, and a mom can do the job without a man and probably do it better. Perhaps this is why men walk away, because they feel they have no value anyway? They have learned the “unimportance” of a man and a father in the family, so they feel like they don’t need to step up either. I am not sure if this is completely accurate information, or what it really means, but it is a very interesting idea to think about.
According to this article, men consider saying those three little words six weeks before women do!
“If spoken later in a relationship, men “may fear commitment”, it said. Women, however, do not trust men who say “I love you” too early.”
Why is it that women do not trust men who say “I love you,” too early? Is it because it seems as though they are just saying it and they don’t really mean it?
I think this is a very interesting article and an interesting thing to research! I would love to know more on the different ideas and feelings that men and women have regarding relationships. Although, the study only reviewed 45 men and women, I don’t think it can be considered super accurate. But still, I think that it is highly interesting and maybe something that should be further studied!
USA Today reported that 95% of Americans are having sex before marriage, then why are schools STILL preaching abstinence only?! Maybe if the schools would teach other methods of sexual health, then we could greatly reduce the rates of Teen STDS and pregnancy! Is it possible that students are catching an abundance of sexually transmitted diseases and getting pregnant because they are not being fully educated? Students KNOW that they aren’t supposed to do it, but the fact is, they are doing it anyway. So instead of turning a blind eye to what is going on, perhaps we should just accept what we cannot change and try and prevent more problems from occuring?!
At least if students were taught how to prevent pregnancy if they DO choose to have sex, we may be able to reduce a large number of devastating statistics in our culture. Including, poverty rate, abortion rate, and kids being raised in single parent homes. I am not sure which idea is “right or wrong,” but maybe it is something our culture needs to reconsider.
EWWWWWW! You have a PERIOD?!?!!?!? Oh wait…. All Females Do… The One Equality We Share is an Embarassment? WHY!!!!
2. Men are freaking slobs
3. Women are wimps
4. Women love to talk (and talk) (and talk)
5. Women see mauve, men see purple
6. Women are lightweights