Sticks and Stones……..B.S.!
Sticks and Stones…..B.S.!
Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me……Bull! There are no bruises or swollen cheeks to be seen….its all hidden away. Verbal Abuse is something that is overlooked far more often than it should be. Most of the time people who are in abusive relationships rarely see the abuse for what it is. Many times it is “justified” because “they had a bad day” or “they just were just raised that way.” We have discussed violence in our class but often verbal abuse leads to physical abuse. Whether it actually leads to physical abuse or not the emotional damage is the same. There are a lot of resources if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship. Below is a check list, it may sounds strange to need a check list but opening the eyes to see the abuse is almost half of the battle.
Does your partner…
____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
____ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
____ Treat you roughly – grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
____ Call, text, or email you several times a day or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
____ Pressure you sexually for things you don’t want to do?
____ Make you feel like there “is no way out” of the relationship?
____ Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with your friends or family?
____ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?
____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?
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