Sticks and Stones……..B.S.!

Sticks and Stones…..B.S.!

Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me……Bull!  There are no bruises or swollen cheeks to be seen….its all hidden away.  Verbal Abuse is something that is overlooked far more often than it should be.  Most of the time people who are in abusive relationships rarely see the abuse for what it is.  Many times it is “justified” because “they had a bad day” or “they just were just raised that way.”  We have discussed violence in our class but often verbal abuse leads to physical abuse.  Whether it actually leads to physical abuse or not the emotional damage is the same.  There are a lot of resources if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship.  Below is a check list, it may sounds strange to need a check list but opening the eyes to see the abuse is almost half of the battle. 

 

Does your partner…
____ Embarrass or make fun of you in front of your friends or family?
____ Put down your accomplishments or goals?
____ Make you feel like you are unable to make decisions?
____ Use intimidation or threats to gain compliance?
____ Tell you that you are nothing without them?
____ Treat you roughly – grab, push, pinch, shove or hit you?
____ Call, text, or email you several times a day or show up to make sure you are where you said you would be?
____ Use drugs or alcohol as an excuse for saying hurtful things or abusing you?
____ Blame you for how they feel or act?
____ Pressure you sexually for things you don’t want to do?
____ Make you feel like there “is no way out” of the relationship?
____ Prevent you from doing things you want – like spending time with your friends or family?
____ Try to keep you from leaving after a fight or leave you somewhere after a fight to “teach you a lesson”?

Do you…
____ Sometimes feel scared of how your partner will act?
____ Constantly make excuses to other people for your partner’s behavior?
____ Believe that you can help your partner change if only you changed something about yourself?
____ Try not to do anything that would cause conflict or make your partner angry?
____ Always do what your partner wants you to do instead of what you want?
____ Stay with your partner because you are afraid of what your partner would do if you broke-up?

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Mothers in College

“Women in college who also have children face multiple barriers, time constraints and emotional stress that other women may not experience.”

 

This article discusses the difficulty mothers face while trying to attend college, and whether married or single it is QUITE a challenge. I went back to college when my little girl was 5 weeks old, and although it was difficult  I wouldn’t have it any other way. Many people criticize mothers in school saying they should be spending time with their kids rather than going to college. But personally, I think that my daughter will be so proud to know that  I finished college while taking care of her and see that while I am away from her going to school it is because she is my first priority! The article talked about an awesome plan for helping single mothers in college which provides childcare to single mothers, i LOVED that, details below:

“Wilson College’s Women with Children program, which started in 1996, helps single mothers attain a degree. After the moms go through the admission process and pay room and board, Wilson offers free child care all day, as needed.

Women in the program must be enrolled for 12 credits and are encouraged to take summer courses to graduate in four years.”

Overlooking Discrimination

 

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“Accusations of workplace discrimination — which workers file with the commission when they think they have been unfairly treated based on their race, sex or other so-called protected categories”

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I found this article to be very interesting in the fact that when cases are filed for discrimination in the work place especially being that it is becoming more relavant now they are calling it due to layoffs that they were already preparing to do later on so that is not the reason for firing the employees. But when you see the trend that the majority of the people being layed off are those that fit the category of being either pregnant, overweight, or for race, and women…its obviouis that discrimination takes place in the work place and is an issue that is being overlooked.

Informed From ALL Sides Before Childbirth, Do Docs Take it Too Far?

The support group will try to inform women of the risks associated with any form of medical intervention during birth such as epidural, induction or C-section delivery.

“We are not anti-hospital or anti-medical,” Epsteen said. “We want women to be educated about their choices in birth.”

Jones-Smith delivered her daughter, Eden Smith, about four months ago.

“I figured if I did everything right and did all my research I would not end up with (a C-section),” the 29-year-old said.

But she did. She’s co-leading the local ICAN group to help educate but also to help heal, she said. “It was partially for my own healing,” said Jones-Smith, who lives in Lafayette. “I felt like this would be a way of helping myself heal and getting the message out there.””

Similar to the Ricki Lake film we watched in class, this is a support group with aims to inform mothers about their options in the delivery room and to help them from being “scared into” surgery. Personally, I never noticed the issue in this situation until after we watched the film in class. I have noticed that many people I know have had a c-section because something “may” have been damaging to the baby, but I bet that most of them could have given birth naturally just fine.  I do like this group because I do think that women should be informed from all sides before giving birth, because like the film said: A woman will NEVER forget until the day that she dies the experience she had when giving birth. And that is so true, it is one of the most (probably THE most) powerful experience in your life if you have children. However, I personally have not had this kind of experience with OB/GYNs I felt that they were very respectful of my choices and can not imagine them pressuring me into a medical intervention I was not comfortable with. I think that any doctors who are doing this to mothers should probably be re-evaluated because that just doesn’t seem right to me.

Discrimination Against Overweight Applicants at Google?

Google has been talked about as a company that takes extremely good care of it’s employees, but this story paints a less than great picture of discriminatory hiring practices at the company.  A woman faces discrimination on the grounds of being female, a minority, or a mother in hiring practices, and also because they are heavier.  Hiring employees should not take weight, sexual orientation, or motherhood into effect, so why can’t we amend equal opportunity policies to include those groups and actually enforce the policies?

New Study Examines Effects of Increased Number of Female Executives on Lower Level Female Workers

This study is a great way to test out a few theories on the changing face of the workforce.  We just read about the difficulty women face trying to achieve higher career positions, and how mentoring has an effect on that transition.  Now, with more females in exceutive positions, they can directly and indirectly help those ladies aspiring for better employment opportunities.  I would like to see data about mentoring, and also if the increasing number of female executives has a positive effect on hiring practices and treatment of employees or jobseekers who are mothers.

Casual Sex is like a tattoo

This is a promo that talks about the effects of having casual sex for the long term.Is a good thing? is it a bad thing?  What last longer a marraige where you live togeather first or if u wait? And the list goes on.I think one should wait until they are married to live togeather.This video talks about the long terms effects and is it worth it.Like a tattoo are you going to want it 15 years later will it still look good?

 

Hey Hey no no Chick fil a has got to go!

After being surpised that chick fil a can/will fire people based on their sexual orientation I knew I had to post something about it.I think its crazy that people who commit murder and rape are given jobs and able to work at places like chick fil a but somebody that has done nonthing wrong can get fired for being who they are? Even though most Christians belive that being homosexual is not right,Christians are also suppose to show love to all our brothers and sisters and pray for them.Its not very christ-like to fire someone who may really need their job because of who they love.
Anyways we have a chickfila on campus what do you think we sould do? Find out what happened to the chickfila at Indiana Unviversity south bend by reading here

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Oprah and the end of an era

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The Oprah Show has ended after 25 seasons. What’s next for Oprah? Retirement? I doubt it.

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This is a lady who was born in poverty to a single black unwed mother in 1954. Oprah then went on despite becoming a pregnant teen herself and losing the child shortly after birth, to graduate high school and go on to college. Her experiences shaped her and educated her about the ways of the world unfortunately at a very young age. However, she survived her hardships and that drive catapulted her into being one of the world’s richest women.

Female Mutilation

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 There is an issue of women’s body parts being removed. We have women adding body parts, we have women taking body parts away here in America by way of plastic surgery. However, in some parts of the world, it’s not such a rosy picture. Some women have their clitoris removed. Some do it willingly not understanding how it will affect them later in life, some don’t do it willingly. Some say this is violence against women, some say this is a religious/ cultural belief in certain parts of the world and that it should be respected. It is still changing your body in some way that is not natural and is not what or how you were born.

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If male circumcision were as painful as what these women endure and if it affected men more, I somehow wonder if the issue would be stamped out more quickly?